The online dating world is becoming bombarded with all sorts of different services, platforms, and apps. It can be hard to figure out which one to use and what’s for you.
Some are paid for like Match.com some are for different backgrounds, religious beliefs, countries, etc. It can be hard to find the right method to tackle online dating and to be successful in meeting new girls in your area.
One of the fastest growing apps right now is Tinder, the app which meshes hot or not with dating nearby girls. In this article I walk you through the best guide on Tinder tips for guys. A lot of these tips can also be used for girls but a few may be more focused toward strengths or biases of being a guy in the dating scene.
The tips below are a compilation of a lot of experience and research if you find that there are other tricks I don’t address here then feel free to leave a comment below with your strategy or suggestion. It’s always good to hear what other readers experience and find useful or helpful.
General Tinder Tips
You’re obviously on this site because you are already on Tinder and want to figure out how you can meet more girls and have a better success rate with women in your area (if you would like more technical information on interacting with Tinder, take a look here). This list is geared toward getting guys more matches and using Tinder to the fullest. Again, even if you’re a girl you can use a lot of these tips.
1. Profile Photo
Your Tinder profile photo is the very first thing anyone sees about you when they decide whether to swipe left or swipe right to you. Therefore, you need to make sure you’re putting your best foot forward and not showing a bad photo. Here are a few things to keep in mind.
- Make sure the photo is well lit and good quality, no tiny photos where you can barely see the person.
- Try to have a photo of just yourself, when there are multiple people in the photo its ambiguous who it is and people are more likely to swipe no.
- Pick out the best photo of yourself and use that as your first photo. Ask your friends which photo you look the best in and use that.
- Try to have at least 2 photos of yourself so people can get images from different angles, etc. It looks a bit sketchy when the person has only one photo.
- Make sure the profile photo shows your personality or hobbies. Think of how you want to portray yourself and choose a photo that matches that. Want to portray success, use a photo of your in a suit. Want to show people you’re fun and light hearted, use a photo with you laughing in it. Tailor the photo to match your personality and the type of girl or guy you want to meet.
- Lastly, I would suggest staying away from selfies. A selfie often times distorts your face as the camera is too close to the subject and the bending of the lens toward the edges will make your face look longer or fatter than reality. Plus, who really likes selfies anyway.
2. Profile Description
If you open up the Tinder app and go to settings and tap on your profile photo you will notice that there is a description that says About You… This is the second thing people will notice about you. If someone is interested in you but on the fence on whether they will swipe right or left they may tap your profile to see more. Then, they will scroll through your other photos and look at your description.
Therefore, having a solid description of yourself is very important. Make sure you are truthful and similar to the profile photo, that it represents who you are and what you’re like. If you have a life motto, this is a good place to put it or a quote that you really love. I’ve seen people put what university they went to, how tall they are, where they’re from, etc. Limit it to high level information that someone may want to know if they would want to meet you.
3. Match Radius & Age
You can increase or decrease the match radius that Tinder uses to increase your pool of potential girls or guys to meet. To change the radius head over to the Tinder app, tap on settings and discovery preferences. From there you will see a slider that you can adjust to determine how far away Tinder will look for matches. The default is 50 miles. If you life in a densely populated city you may want to reduce that to 15 miles. If you life out in the country far from other cities you may want to increase the distance to the max of 100 miles away.
You can also change the age of guys and girls you’d like to meet anywhere from age 18 to age 50. A good starting point is to include women and men that are 10 years younger and 10 years older than you are. Of course if you’re younger than 28 you won’t be able to have 10 years younger. Adjust according to your preferences but keep in mind that the larger you make the age range the more potential matches you have. You may find a hot older woman that you would otherwise have eliminated.
4. Add Interests On Facebook
Tinder is linked to Facebook and therefore the app looks at a number of different things to bring into your Tinder account and make the experience better. One of the things Tinder uses is your interests on Facebook and that’s where you can work the connection between the two platforms in your favor.
Head over to Facebook and start liking more pages. Like pages of your favorite music, sports team, books, movies, bands, cities, colleges, celebrities, companies, etc. The more you like the more chance you will get a match with someone else who likes the same thing. This also let’s other people see where your interests lie and what you do in your spare time. Make sure, however, that they are honest to who you are. Don’t try to deceive someone by liking a page you don’t really enjoy.
5. Keep Away From Extremes
This one is a bit subjective but bears discussing. Make sure you look through your profile and don’t give off the impression of an extreme personality. That can be an immediate turn off. If you like the Patriots, it’s fine to say that in the description but don’t have all three of your photos of you in a Pats jersey and a description all about how much you love the Patriots.
This is also where I’d suggest not showing too much skin whether you’re a girl or a guy. It tends to work better for girls but can be an immediate turn off if a guy does it. You don’t want to give off the impression that you’re conceited or that you have low self esteem. Try to fall in the middle area. I’d say the only thing that it’s hard to overdo is being funny. Almost everyone loves people who are funny and enjoy being around them.
Tinder Tips For Guys
These tips are specifically for guys and will focus on how a guy can meet a girl on Tinder. Again, if you have more tips, leave them below so our readers can benefit from other people’s experience. One main thing to keep in mind throughout using an app like Tinder is what you want out of it. Do you want to go for one night stands, a few casual dates, just chat with girls, or long term girlfriends and relationships? Decide on that first and you’ll have overall better success when modifying your strategy.
1. Profile Photos for Men
A lot of these should sound obvious but make sure your profile photo follow these big rules. Girls generally like guys that are funny, successful, in shape, and tall. I would say those four things are the primary things girls look for in guys and you will want to focus on those when you choose your profile photos.
Think about those four traits, funny, successful, in shape, and tall. Do you have any of these qualities, or all of them? Focus on which ones are your strengths and make sure you portray them in your profile photo. If you’re in shape you could include a photo of you that shows your full body. If you’re successful use a photo of yourself in a suit, etc. Make sure your portraying yourself the best way possible without lying.
2. Tinder Pick Up Lines
Tinder pick up lines are one of those things that are often useful but can easily be overdone. Pick up lines can be extremely successful in getting a conversation started but they can also quickly end what was once a curious interest. I suggest checking out sites that have thousands of pick up lines and finding a few that fit your personality and tend to work well.
Try a new pick up line on a few girls and if they don’t respond, move on to another on on new girls. Don’t sit around beating your head against the wall using the same lines over and over again. The main goal is to start a conversation and break the ice. That’s why funny one liners are often the most successful. The most successful pick up lines are a good mix of confidence and humor.
3. Judge Her Intentions
It’s often a good idea to judge what a girls intentions are on Tinder. Some girls just want to chat with guys and will never meet them, some will want to meet but just be friends, others are looking for a relationship and boyfriend material, and others are just looking for a quick hook up. It will help you in the long run if you can identify early and quickly what the girls intentions are and what they are looking for in Tinder.
If you find a girl that wants something different out of your Tinder interaction than you do, quickly decide whether it’s worth it to pursue and if not cut the cord. There’s no reason to push something when you want different things from the start.
4. Be A Gentleman
The last suggestion I have is to be a gentleman. Tinder has turned into somewhat of a speed rating system where there is little link of the person’s profile to the actual person. A lot of guys out there will clearly only be looking to hook up and will make that too obvious or too blunt. Remember that unless you’re looking for a girl with low self esteem, girls like gentlemen. That doesn’t mean you need to be obscenely nice but courting her doesn’t hurt.
Find a good mix of flirting, funny, gentlemen, and adventurous and you will never go wrong.
Use Tinder Swipes With Thought
You may have noticed that Tinder has now limited how many swipes you’re allowed to use with your profile unless you want to pay for the premium Tinder Plus version. You will notice that you’re limited to approximately 100 swipes per day and after that there will be a big timer that pops up that says you’re out of swipes until the next day. Kind of a weird situation where an app is basically telling you that you can no longer use it’s service anymore. Wonder why this was ever done? Money.
Tinder plus now is the paid for version of Tinder where people 28 and older have to pay $20 a month in the United States and if you’re younger than 28 you only have to pay $10 a month. Sound like discrimination against age, many people would agree with you. This has left a sour taste in many people’s mouth given that Tinder is openly saying they prefer younger people on their app rather than older people. We will see how this plays out with premium users and whether they loose users to competition by making this move.
Play the Tinder Numbers Game
The main thing that I find is the best technique for anyone in the dating arena or anyone who attempts something, it’s the simple truth that the more times you try something the more times you’ll be successful at it. That applies to Tinder dating as well as practicing your free throws. Remember to use Tinder daily and make sure you are constantly chatting with girls.
Even if you aren’t super interested in a girl make sure you chat with her a bit, see what her interests are, make small talk, try to make her laugh. All of these are good practice for when the big fish come along that you really want to impress and at that point you will have a ton of experience. The guys that I’ve met throughout my life that go on the most dates always are the guys that ask the most girls out. They don’t necessarily have the best batting average but they’re up to the plate a lot which means they have a lot of opportunities to get a hit.
So if you keep one thing in mind it’s to continue to swipe right, chat with girls, and have fun with it. It’s a great app to meet new people and enjoy a social life within your city or town. It can lead to good conversations, dates, or even something more but it certainly won’t lead to anything if you don’t use it. So get out there and start Tindering!
Know of any other good Tinder tips for guys or girls? What do you think about the tips above, have some of them been helpful to you? Let us know in the comments below.